What obstacles have you had to face to get to where you are?

I am not a hard core feminist - I believe in gender equality and like I said before I believe everyone has a place at the table at the top table. However sometimes the journey to get there is painful. Here is mine.

At the start of my career, I was willing to do everything to show I was determined, hardworking and loyal. I worked diligently and overtime most days. I pushed for excellence in everything I did.

One day, I was asked by my manager to deliver a piece of work with a client who had been sexually harassing me in the workplace. Committed to delivering on the results, I attempted to start working on this project with this senior leader. As I asked when we could meet to work through a project plan, he said “ I will not work on this with you unless you go out for dinner with me first”.

My immediate feeling was one of anger and humiliation. I decided that enough was enough so I turned to my manager, a woman and said I was not willing to compromise my ethics and morals for work. Her response to me was : “Victoire, we need this piece of work done. You are a woman, use this to your advantage and go out for dinner. You know what is at stake”

I felt devastated. I felt stripped bare. I felt ashamed. I went for dinner. I kept my job.

I have spent many hours reflecting on this. I questioned: had I connected with my true values, those of integrity, resilience, empowerment, and respect - would that have made me a better person? One who is resilient and confident enough to fight for integrity.

But I stand proud today as I look back on this as an experience I hope few women have to face, but one which taught me a lot. I chose that path that day - whether it be right or wrong - and I have learned from it and guess what? It makes me stronger, more resilient and more determined to fight for equal rights. It gives me confidence to be me.

What’s your story?